The first thing here for you to consider before you start to analyze this to death is what made you check the dating site in the first place? I call it my spidey sense. They are constantly on guard for something to go wrong and checking a dating site for the guy they are dating is part of their ritual. If this is you, stop right here and please check ou t the Journey Inward and start doing some inner work. He is keeping his options open. When a man is committed to you he is committed to contributing to your happiness as well. Unless he is a complete idiot, he is aware this would not make you happy.
Did he give any reason to be suspicous? Agree with the other guys here. He may not know how to delete the profile and thinks removing the app is good enough. If he's not tecky that is. Also if its inactive then he's not logging in or checking it.
He's your man now, accept your sucess! He deleted the apps and is not active, so where is the problem? I think you are overriacting.
Guys are very lazy and he probably dint see the point when he hasn't got the apps and can't see what's going on anyway. So give him a reason to. Just say friends use those sites and frankly it's just embarrassing for you because it looks like he's looking even though you know he isn't.
Tell him to delete them just for that reason and your pride. I expect him to do it straight away. If he doesn't after putting it that way then you know this isn't some absent minded lazy thing it's deliberate.
If he hasn't been active, I wouldn't worry about it. But if he's active, then that's a problem and you should confront him about it. Yes, they are still there in case you break up.
If you have a pretty strong relationship, then he'll likely delete the profiles - when you two tie the knot. But until that happens, leave it alone. Even if you tell him to delete it, he could still create a new one. Also, he could hook up with someone offline. Sounds like you aren't trusting him that much yet.
I don't think you need to worry if he's not using them he could easily set up new ones at any point anyway I understand you questioning it but I think he doesn't even think about it cause they're inactive. He's keeping his options open. If you are okay with that, do nothing. If not, then he needs to shut it down. Basically, you're still just a fallback chick for him, and he'll dump you if anything better comes along.
The moment i started dating my boyfriend i deleted all my accounts and so did he. If he was serious about you then he wouldn't need to keep them active. They have more respect for me. Yes, yes you are. If he's not active then you have nothing to worry about. I've had numerous girlfriends over the years, and never deleted my online dating accounts.
Of course, it made it easier to go right back on after a break-up, so you might be right about him keeping his just in case.
But I wouldn't over think it. Talk to him, with my ex, I just delete the app, without knowing you could actually delete the account, when she told me I deleted the account! If he still doesn't want, ask him why and if is because he doesn't want to lose his matches, you should consider the relationship. First thing my boyfriend did when we started dating was go through the rigorous process of completely deleting tinder, snap chat and Facebook. Right away he did. I guess it's just respect.
First of all, be more secure with yourself. Secondly, ask him to delete or deactivate it. Tell him it makes you uncomfortable. If he refuses, dump his sorry ass, gain some self respect, reactivate your own account and find a man who will cherish you! Too many men around to settle for a dipshit who feels the need to keep his Tinder profile active. Ask him what would he do if the roles were reversed, if he won't give you an honest answer just recreate your profiles and inform him about it.
If he's not active on those sites, what difference does it make? He's probably just forgot to delete his accounts, I don't think it's anything to worry about. If u have a strong relationship already as u have mentioned than these thing shd not bother u at all and every relation depends on faith so in my opinion have faith in him and delete ur question from here also as soon u get ur right answer. I've been through this.
If you agreed, and he doesn't keep his end of the agreement, can he be trusted with other promises?
Boyfriend wont delete dating profile
I say go to him once more. Say i love you lots, and i dont want you to do something you will regret. Delete them, or me. I'd legit be too lazy to go online and figure out how to delete or deactivate an account.
I always just delete the apps, you're overthinking it. I held his hand for the first time n he held mine back. The patient turned out to be negative n I ran out crying. He followed and hugged me for the 1st time in a month or more.
He was always sickly coz of the drugs but he kept on walking me n all doing all the things we used to do before that.
We hang out indoors twice. Things changed day after he fell sick once n took a 1 week leave. Nothing was the same when came back. I had an emotional breakdown. I got angry with him because he slept on me while we were talking about it. I had another episode.. I apologized after a day n that Saturday I went to keep him company.
I thought everything went well but he never texted again after I stopped going to hospital from Monday.
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After 3 days of silence I texted asking him why and what is it that he wanted. Earlier on I had told him that felt something had changed n had asked him about spending time together. I went back to hospital a week later to officially end my attachment n I said goodbye. I initiated all the time.
I asked that we spend time together 3 times. I got angry n I told him not to come. I apologized after a week said I overreacted n it was silly. I like him and after reading your blog I know there are many things I should have done differently. You constant contact and pushing and trying to fix and control is probably what has pushed him away to start with.
Lean back, way back, give him some space. Your email address will not be published. Recently one of my single girlfriends came to this conclusion that she needed to prove herself to the guy she September 7, Robin Cockrell 4 comments.
He should of had his fill, and left -- not to come back unless the two of you break up because he's hungry again -- because he's empty!
So why is he still on there? Shouldn't YOU be on his mind? Shouldn't he be filling up with dreams of YOU? And looking at your picture, or thinking about where he's going to take you on a date, or something like that. There's better things to do then browse OkC. So I think he's saying, he's not completely satisfied. And yes, he's keeping his options open.Online Dating: Boyfriend Won't Get Off Online Dating Site
Why are you keeping your options open? I think you should start to detach from him. Break it off, over time. Get back on OkC yourself. Tell him what you told us: My girlfriend saw you online and I went to go check for myself. And I couldn't believe it. I wanted to know if it was just a one-off thing, but then I noticed you kept doing it. If he gets angry, that's a BAD sign. I'm sorry to say. It means he is doing something that he knows he should not be doing. By the way, you don't need an account to see his online status.
Don't be logged on when you do it. But meet him at his own game. Look for someone else to replace him, first. Then when the time is right - let him go. He may wise up, by the time you're ready to let him go and maybe you'll keep him because he starts treating you right. Tell them about your previous experience with this douche bag and let him show you "over time" what he's made of.
You might find out that the guy really isn't who he says he is, and wanted to rope you in quickly because of that. Women fall in love through sex oxytocin. They just basically get a dopamine release, but it's not enough to be good to you -- not really. They just love the activity, not YOU. Also, I love sex and if I'm attracted to the guy and he's "the one" for me -- I'll want it right away BUT learn to close your legs and curb your desire if you want a relationship to work out for the long-term.
Thanks for all the advice and the bolded tip! I think it's spot-on. It's just so hard to detach because I want to believe so badly he wants to be with me as much as I want to be with him, and is just being clueless. But how do I get back on okc myself? Won't he see and think I'm a hypocrite?
Or maybe I should talk to him first and say, if you're not going to be committed, I'm not either. Also, I don't want to have to "close my legs and curb my desire" if I get on the dating scene again, but I still want a relationship that works out long-term.
Do women really have to hold out for sex to show they want a long-term relationship? If so, that sucks.
I don't want to go without sex for any period of time. Aren't there forward-thinking guys out there? Let me be short, sweet and to the point. From now on, if a guy tells you to be exclusive you make sure they deactivated the account they met you on. I had the same problem I'm the passed two months. It's for the better. It's pretty good advice. At least give it until you're sure you're on the same page.
It doesn't increase your chances but it could keep you from getting hurt so often. If you're not sure you're on the same page. So you don't get hurt as much.
My boyfriend hasn't deleted his online dating profiles, what should I do?
I'm a sexual person and if I'm going to entertain the possibility of a relationship, I want to know that there's sexual compatibility.
I've had relationships start after sleeping with someone on the 1st or 2nd date with no issue. If someone's into you and not a hypocritical shithead , the fact that they banged you early on isn't going to factor negatively into how they see you.
But this guy is lying to you AND clearly doesn't think very highly of you regarding the facts that he seems to be keeping his eyes open for better options as well as that he thinks you have no way of figuring out he's still on there. Is three months really that long, if you want a long term relationships lasting three years or more?
That's what a friend told me -- who has successfully partnered. Before, I was like TWO weeks was too long to wait for sex. Now, it's just got really easy to do. I'm into month three, with the third boyfriend and I already let him go once.
My friend is right, a few months isn't going to kill the passion. But a guy who was just looking for sex, and not taking you seriously -- he'll be gone in a flash. If you're dating a friend that you're attracted to on the outside and vice versa -- it won't be a loss if you don't have inside sexual compatibility.
You would have made a wonderful new friend or not -- cause you found out he's a douche bag!!! One of mine turned out to be one and a new network of contacts. Maybe he can hook you up with a friend or vice versa?! Frankly, I wish I could bang "the one" on the first day I met him.
Is this wise these days? And yes, that's been my "unfortunate" experience. That wasn't the case in the past. The guy doesn't think YOU are serious about having a long term relationship.
I've actually had TWO guys say to me one was one of the boyfriends I speak of below: Oh, you don't want to kiss me -- so you're looking for an LTR with me?! I'm not kissing you, because I'm NOT interested.
So basically I think there are more douche bags online now!! Some guys lose interest. Men typically like a good "chase". If they got you so easily -- who else can they get?
Men are wired to do as many chicks as they can to populate the planet. But a lot of men keep their willy in their pants. Don't have to be ruled by it.
By closing my legs and desire I snagged three boyfriends in the span of six months, who later I decided I did not want. Two of them I did not ever sleep with And while I normally fall in love with guys very hard and fast -- I didn't with these guys because I didn't have sex with them So my judgements of their behaviors and characters were NOT clouded.
And next time I won't get wrangled into a committed relationship either. I want to "date around" with no sex. Get to know guys, as friends WITH a physical attraction that does not get consummated until we both know we dig each other a lot and his good character has been seen.
I wish men, these days, were not like this. I want some sex!! Now lets see if boyfriend three will work out I already broke up with him once I need to date around. And regarding breaking up. You know what's up. He may turn around. In the interim, you're moving on.
He doesn't deserve an explanation. If he questions you -- be like Or whatever "real reason" you can come up with as to WHY he wouldn't deactivate it, and not say anything to you. Again, he does NOT deserve an explanation.
Make yourself more busy. Don't be as available as often And as I said, he may realize he's acting like a jerk and start pursuing you properly. But by then, you may no longer be interested!! Oh and I speak from experience.