Could you date a girl that smokes cigarettes? Why or why not? Is this a big deal? And while everyone else is saying the costs, the smell, health issues, what really did it for me was that we couldn't even watch a damn movie at home without her having to go outside to smoke. Take a flight somewhere, first thing she had to do was smoke.
I worked in a tire storage for a bit, get some extra money in the student budget yaknow. I was the only guy who didn't smoke and didn't drink coffee.
So when things got really slow everyone else would head out for a "5 hah! I would be back at work after 5 minutes every time, usually I was working alone for 5 to 10 minutes before the rest started showing up.
I quit that job, or more accurately didn't apply for an extension of my contract, because the boss gave me shit for taking "unscheduled breaks". I asked why the fuck I was getting shit for it and nobody else.Avoid Women That Smoke Weed - Don't Date A Pot Head - 4/20 day (Advice For Men)
Apparently in his coffein addled mind smoke and coffee addiction was acceptable reasons for not working, they need those. Taking a couple minutes from lugging heavy tires around to drink water however, now that's just laziness! Lots of people I know don't necessarily think they deserve it. It's that they go fucking nuts without it. There's nothing an employer can do except allow them to take their breaks at least not in semi-rural PA. If that's upheld, nobody should have any issue. I needed a reminder of why i quit, and that is it.
Being such a slave to it. Being jerked out of places and events to smoke. As someone who quit a year ago after smoking for 18 years my entire teenage and adult life this is the absolute best part about no longer smoking. About 6 months after quitting I got stuck in the tarmac on a plane for about 3. All the money and health benefits are great, but you kind of lose sight of them over time.
This one sticks with me and there are so many moments I'm thankful I'm not a slave to those cravings anymore. It gets old fast. I also did a lot of shitty things when I smoked, like spending a two year relationship lying about it. I chalked much of that behavior up to me being a college-age immature asshole, and we tried to date again. I find the smell of smoke and smokers to be very off putting; therefore, I would find it difficult to see a successful relationship with someone who smokes.
All that, plus kissing or showing affection afterwards I prefer not to kiss or make out with an ash tray. I ended one relationship and this played a big factor, among a couple other things, but this was a sticking point.
I once went on a date with a girl who was very attractive, very nice, and the date went extremely well. Turned me off so much I couldn't bring myself to go for a second date.
Somewhat graphic story ahead. Dated a girl once who was an active soccer and swimmer who I'd met online and her profile mentioned nothing about smoking. A few dates in, she won a bet and I ended up baking dinner for her at my place.. While we're waiting for it to finish in the oven, one thing lead to another and I end up going down on her. She was probably the third girl I ever went down on, but the taste was like slightly acidic in a way that I hadn't tasted before, sorta off I guess.
Wasn't bad, I just assumed that was just her taste.. Lo and behold, the next date I pick her up, I see her shove the cigarettes in her purse and it all clicks. Pretty soon after, I got clingy and drove that relationship into the ground like a blind man running down a set of stairs, but I'll never forget that detail. There is a smell though. I dated a girl that smoked and yeah the smell is super overwhelming.
I've only ever been a social smoker, and the last time I had a cigarette 2? It's different for some people, I work with a nonsmoker who likes the smell, or people that don't know I smoke until I say I'm going out to do it. I have a job where I'm in people's faces constantly, and I have a descenting ritual. Cut it out thirty minutes beforehand, Altoids, lavender oil, febreeze. Don't really get complaints, although I have before.
This is very true. Briefly was seeing a girl who smoked a lot The constant smell of smoke makes me nauseous. Plus I have asthma which will make that worse for me. My mother is now dragging around oxygen canisters from a lifetime of smoking. I'm not about to watch another person commit slow motion suicide in front of me. My mother passed away from a combination of smoking, alcoholism and diabetes.
After I moved out, after every Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc I'd have to immediately take off my clothes and toss them into the laundry when I got home.
And help me if I was stupid enough to wear a fleece. So smoking isn't the dealbreaker it once was if she's got the rest of her ducks in a row. Still pretty shit though. At age 21, smoking was a deal breaker. People make a big deal out of this question. So what if your SO smokes? You dont like that? There are other dealbreakers for me that are far worse than her smoking. Id rather have my girlfriend smoke than watch her physically abuse puppies for fun.
People aren't making a big deal out of this question. They're just answering the question. What may seem like a small deal to you could be a big deal to other people. Which means smoking could be a triviality to you, while simultaneously being a big deal to other people. Of course there are bigger dealbreakers, but the point of the question is to do with smoming, so that's why people are talking about it.
This is exactly why I dumped one of my ex boyfriends. We dated while I was in college. We both worked, but he made more money because he had graduated and could work full time.
He would take me out sometimes, but we split the cost of meals a lot, and I usually bought groceries even though I didn't live with him. He always complained about his financial situation so it felt like as we dated longer, I bought more and more stuff.
Now, I don't mind paying my share. However, it was pretty frustrating that he was dropping so much money on cigarettes, when he could've spent the money on our relationship, student loans, improving his home, savings So many other things. It became an issue of prioritizing and I didn't like being below tobacco. I also realized that it would always be like that, and eventually I'd have to cover healthcare costs in addition to food Just not what I wanted for myself.
Kisses taste like ashtray. Her clothes smell bad, her hair smells bad, her car smells bad, her house smells bad. Would you date a guy who always kind of smells like poo? For me I also was only really exposed to smoking around my grandmother so smelling smoke on a gf would just remind me of her. She also died of lung cancer so it would just remind me of that too.
Yeah, and on a date with a smoker once, about 15 years ago. I'd we like kissing an ashtray at the end of the night. No second date, and now would I consider dating someone who smokes, as they are ignoring Clear evidence that the shit is bad for you. I couldn't get involved with someone who cares so little for their own health. Plus I've amputated a lot of smokers legs from vascular problems. Don't feel like getting serious with someone who might wind up losing one or both of her legs in the future.
My boyfriend dips and it's almost worse. It's just gross to see someone spit all the time. He always has bottles full of black spit lying around and if I'm not careful I can accidentally drink it. I used to paint high steel. The welders all chewed and spat on the steel.
I worked with a charcoal respirator the one smell that got through is if I brushed the dried chew off the steel, came right through when dangerous chemicals were all filtered out. From that point on at least when i was single I would see an attractive girl, and I would think about going up to her, and see her smoking, my thought was always, "Damn, she just ruined herself. I'm sure I could come up with more if I put more thought into it.
It's just such a repulsive habit. If someone wants to do it then power to them, but I'm not forming any sort of permanent living arrangement with that person. I had a wisdom tooth pulled and my DDS said "I know you don't smoke because you bleed and your tooth came out in one whole piece.
Smokers don't bleed much if it all and their teeth often break apart during extraction. When you don't smoke, the smell of cigarettes is like the smell of a chemical fire. Its smell is nearly as offensive as shit. It is really awful. After smoking almost 2 packs a day for the last 8 years I'm now over a month smoke free. Now I understand how i smelled to other people, just awful. After I quit I was shocked by how offensive it was to be around a smoker.
They say an ex smoker is more critical of the smell than a person who has never smoked. I agree with this.
Some might say it's just as dangerous as smoking. I've had a bike for most of my adult life and plan to ride forever. I didn't want to smoke forever. I'd have way more fun riding a bike than having to focus every 3 hours or so on the next cigarette. Even with the same or higher risk of riding a motorcycle, I'll take the risk of the bike over ciggies any day. I'm a bit baffled by all these responses. I don't smoke, but is it that bad for people?
It's not pleasant, but it just smells like smoke Can't believe people are comparing it to chemical fires and what nots.
It's a horrible smell. I don't know what it is about cigarettes that makes them worse than just the smell of tobacco pipe tobacco and chew don't smell bad , but it's one of the worst smells I've ever smelled.
Smoke by itself isn't bad. But smoke mixed with all sorts of chemicals and toxins, along with natural human body odors is straight up vomit-inducing. Inhaling the products of combustion most definitely is bad, it's just worse when it's mixed in with all the extra hazardous additives in cigarettes. It's weird because I liked the smell of cigarettes before I had ever smoked one or was close to anyone that smoked.
Tbh cigarette smoke smell isn't worn the same by everyone. Sometimes when I smell someone who has just smoked I think it smells awesome. But other people tend to smell more putrid I think because they chainsmoke indoors in a small space constantly near stale cigarettes. Or it just clashes with their natural scent. I feel like I detect a lot of variation between smokers, they don't all smell the same to me. I'm just very particular about smell I guess.
I honestly think cigarettes smell so fucking good. I understand thinking the stale smell in someone's house or car, but if they're just doing it outside nbd.
It's about one of the worst things you can do to your body. Furthermore, secondhand smoke can affect the health of people around the smoker as well. My mom was a full time smoker, smoked in the house and in the car constantly. I still have lung issues because of it. Started working at a drive through window and pretty much just loathe people that smoke while they go through. For my sake, and that of those around them. One of my mother's friends never smoked, but was married for many years to smokers.
She is on her second bout of lung cancer, and is probably going to die from it. I don't smoke and I don't think they smell that bad. But my dad was a big smoker, so maybe I just got used to it growing up. I gave up smoking cigarettes ages ago but it's strange and good!
I remember smoking being allowed in restaurants. Everyone used to smoke. I seem to have noticed more women smoking. I had a couple of them flirt with me the other day but I just wasn't feeling it precisely because of the smoking. She came over and sat at my table in a bar , and tried talking to me. I started to talk to her, but then she pulled out a pack and went outside, and I basically ignored her when she came back, not rudely, just nods and grins, and back to watching the band.
After a few failed attempts to regain my attention, she asked my friend if we were gay. I've stopped mid-conversation and walked away from girls when I saw the pack in their purse. I'd ask her to stop, if she wasn't up for giving it up then I'd leave.
I hate the musky smell and the taste whenever you kiss someone who smokes. Not to mention the smell that lingers in your house. Never date someone with the intention of changing something about them There is no intention to change them at first.
But if it's apparent that I'll be with them for the long run, then they gotta at least make an effort to be healthier. Nothing is worse than watching someone you love kill themselves slowing. If they want to carry on that's fine, but I won't be able to stand by and watch it, so I'll leave. I don't smoke, and have never smoked, and I wouldn't care.
I don't really mind the smell much at all, smoke breaks sound like a good excuse to go outside and chill, I don't have enough money that she'd sponge for packs, and I don't really plan on living too long anyway. And if my current girlfriend started smoking, I would tell her that is a dealbreaker for me and leave it up to her if she wants to continue. I cannot stand the smell. My mom still smokes every day.
It's a horrible habit and sometimes smokers do not realize how selfish they can be to smoke. I prefer not to date a smoker, but if you're in the dating game for too long you may find that your standards may vary For me a lot of the time I would use it as a crutch while stressed out, it would have a noticeable calming affect and I would feel "happier".
It also pairs well and enhances your high when combined with it her drugs like alcohol. That being said it's a horrible habit. I just wanted to point out there is a physical noticable high. I'd prefer not, but I wouldn't call it a dealbreaker. I smoke cigars every once in a while, so my stance on tobacco is not as harsh as it used to be. I smoke the occasional cigar as well, but I won't date a cigarette smoker.
Smelling like a cigar once a month or so isn't the same thing as smelling and tasting like cigarettes every day all day. I can tolerate an "occasion smoker" girlfriend. For me the biggest dealbreaking with a real smoker is that I don't want to share my life with an addict. I'd consider it a downside if a girl smokes occasionally at a party or whatever, but not a dealbreaker.
I could see that. I see smoking kind of like drinking. Every once in a while is fine. Everyday is a problem. Yeah, I make a pack last about a month, only at nights or events.
It's an indulgence I budget for myself. Cigars smell way better than ciggarettes though I can't handle being around cigarettes but cigars are tolerable. I'd way rather kiss someone who just smoked a couple cigarettes than someone who just smoked a cigar.
I couldn't; it would be a big deal for me and I've always felt that way. I mean, it's their choice and I wouldn't tell someone to stop, but no I really don't like spending time around people who smoke and when I was younger I lost a relative who smoked and drank a lot to throat cancer so I'm really not a fan.
Plus I struggle with the stink and the smoke aggravates my breathing terribly. Smokers get blinded to the smell, but it clings to people who smoke and if you smoke a lot it can be really foul, in some cases it's been strong enough to make me retch.
I actually like kissing them afterwards. I love her so much, I don't care at all if her kisses taste like cigarettes. They're still the sweetest kisses I've ever known. Long story short I smoked cigs for 6 months after she dumped me and now girls who smoke cigs turn me on lmao.
As a women who smokes. None of you have to worry most smokers don't want to date non-smokers. When I was single I never pursued men who didn't smoke if a non-smoker was interested in me I was skeptical and never really let my guard down around them. We are aware it's a bad habit but everyone has their vices and we don't want to be belittled constantly. Would you date me if I used to smoke but no longer do?
Or if I just smoke a cigarette once every few months for specific occasions? I'm not saying I wouldn't date non-smokers. I definitely did I just didn't actively pursue them but if they pursued me I didn't shut them down I just had to make sure they really didn't hold some resentment because I smoked. If they were totally fine that I smoked and didn't treat me like I was lesser than them then it was fine.
It was just sort of an extra step I had to take before I could open up to them that just wasn't there with other smokers. Yeeeep, as a dude who smokes, I'll avoid non-smokers. I enjoy smoking, I am well aware of the dangers, and I will quit at my pace. Preaching really doesn't help, and in fact makes me want to smoke twice as much out of spite. It's going to save smokers a lot of strife and providers a lot of wasted breath. Being "ready" helped me quit. That and setting a quit date way way in advance so I didn't have to worry about it for several months.
I never smoked much though and I started as an adult, so I guess I had an advantage to begin with. I also find talking to other smokers is easier because when you both go out for a smoke together it's kind of an automatic ice breaker. Conversation flows easier when your having a smoke with someone. Just something I've always noticed. I would date non-smokers tbh as long as they're not judgmental like most of the non-smoker redditors who are so freaking delusional.
But I have to say that, on average, smokers are better to keep around if you're a smoker yourself because of the social aspects of smoking, similar to how, on average, people who drink are more fun to go out with if you like to have a drink or two yourself.
We are aware it's a bad habit but everyone has there vices and we don't want to be belittled constantly. I'm not sure why but many redditors think that we smoke only to reduce our lifespan. Just the other day there was a post with someone holding their cigarette out of the car window with a sticker saying "Fuck cancer" on the car. Instantly reddit pulled out their pitchfork saying smokers cannot be against cancer.
That's how many redditors think and it's disgusting. Often they act as if they were "woke af" but in reality they cannot objectively discuss on topics. I've said just this in my other replies it's not about smoking or not smoking it's about the way you treat me. If you are going to look down your nose at me for smoking then I'm not interested, I'm not going to change because someone won't date me. Oct 31, 30, 0 0 among the creatures of the night.
Sobriquet Member Jan 7, Jan 11, 10, 0 0 Los Angeles, CA. ScottSullivan Member Jan 7, Mar 19, 5, 0 0. My wife smokes, it sucks and I wish she would quit. Then I'm the jerk for getting mad when I have to freeze so she can smoke with the window open lol. DarkKyo Member Jan 7, Apr 4, 15, 1 0. My gf was a casual smoker maybe 1 a day or a few a week before we were dating but she was able to stop right when we started dating.
Dec 28, 29, 1 0. Non-smoker here and while I haven't dated someone who smokes, it would be an instant deal breaker for me. I personally find the smell revolting and the habit disgusting, but that's probably the product of growing up with parents who did smoke.
I have nothing against smokers, but I'm not sure I could handle being around a smoker for a considerable portion of my day. Reizo Ryuu Member Jan 7, Jan 12, 7, Instant turn off, I could never be in a relationship with a smoker.
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Mitch Member Jan 7, Jun 26, 1, 0 0 Houston. She surprisingly never smelled of cigarettes. Breath was fine too.
May 23, 18, 0 0. Sep 28, 33, 2 0 www. Blackstarhat Member Jan 7, Mar 19, 2, 0 0. My bf is a smoker when we first started dating I didnt smoke but now i do. May 25, 6, 9 1, I have dated a smoker.
I'm not a fan and would rather date a non-smoker. My dad was diagnosed with lung cancer so I don't like cigarettes. BlazingDarkness Member Jan 7, May 2, 23, 0 0. I was a smoker when I met my boyfriend. I quit the day he told me he doesn't like smokers on our first date - haven't smoked since. He's worth it Kinda baffles me that there are people who would flat-out not be in a relationship with a smoker. There are much worse vices out there PhantomHound Banned Jan 7, Jun 2, 3, 0 0.
No, my mom smokes, and it's a horrible occasion to see how addicted she is to those cancer sticks. Sephzilla Member Jan 7, Feb 13, 54, 4 I dated a smoker once, I'd personally never do it again. Floridian Member Jan 7, Aug 25, 13, 0 0 I'm in South FL. I'm friends with smokers but I won't ever date one. Bennettt2 Member Jan 7, Oct 3, 0 1, I've been a non-smoker all my life and the only girl I've ever dated was a smoker. Oh how I longed for her to give up, so much that I loved her.
But we parted ways, and it was then that I knew Oct 4, 18, 0 1, Current girl's a smoker, as one or two of the ones I was with prior to her I wish she didn't, but she probably won't stop until and unless she absolutely had to like for having a kid. I won't force her into quitting; she's an adult, and has to do that for herself. Fjordson Member Jan 7, Jul 5, 34, 1 California. I dated a smoker a little before I started.
It didn't bother me too much. The scent of cigarettes has never bothered me and she didn't smoke in her house or in her car so it worked out.
As for quitting, there's always hope for someone to quit. Especially if the thought of quitting already appeals to them. I unfortunately don't have any great advice. I smoked for about five years, starting a little after I was 18, but never really felt addicted.
I would have maybe on an average day and would sometimes go multiple days without any. I decided to drop them cold turkey eventually because I felt like an old man at 23 along with changing my diet and working out. Been five years now and I haven't had a smoke since that day. I guess just keep communicating with him about the habit and how he himself wants to drop it. It can be done! My uncle quit smoking after almost four decades of addiction.
McBryBry Member Jan 7, I did once and it disgusted me. A few of my friends smoke and I'm fine around that, but kissing the person who does it? Jeffolation Member Jan 7, Jun 27, 2, 0 0 Canada. Trey Member Jan 7, Mar 3, 27, You smell it everywhere. Lumpy Onion Member Jan 7, Dec 11, 10, 0 0. Kissing a smoker when I wasn't a smoker was memorably gross. It was like licking the bottom of an ashtray. It reminded me of that icky flavor you get from a "refry" cigarette.
But I put up with it because the person was awesome. The way that I quit was by doing it cold turkey. I tried the patches and I tried the gum, but they just didn't work because I was still addicted to nicotine. It was an idea that popped into my mind one night at a party while I was really drunk. It was simply this mantra, "I was not born needing nicotine, so why do I treat it like I do food and water? I demonized the shit out of them in my mind and just visualized the image of a rotten lung from a longtime smoker.
Now I can't even be around them or have a single one without gagging after stopping for 12 years. It was one of the best decisions I ever made. Tic Tacs and altoids were things I used to substitute the habit in a minor way though.
Art Teitlebaum Member Jan 7, Dec 7, 2, 0 My SO still smokes. I gave up smoking a long time ago, but it's not a problem for me. Honestly, I always think she's quite sexy with a cigarette in her hand.
Feb 9, 2, 1 0. I have before, and it's something I probably wouldn't ever do again. I can't stand the smell, and my previous experience has just made it a giant turn off. Almost worse is the smell of a person trying to cover up the smell of their habit. I feel like their sense of smell was so dulled that they had no idea they were choking out everyone around them.
Apr 2, 8, 0 0 Wisconsin, USA twitter. I don't smoke, but I do have a little asthma. It's all good though. Rafy Member Jan 7, I was in the same position as the guy your are going out with. I was not really a heavy smoker, mostly 3 cigs a day and more likely just 1 a day.
What me and my now ex worked out was that I was only allowed to smoke right before I showered and had to brush my teeth right after the shower. The rule was implemented when we started living together but I never smoked during or before any of our dates, even before we moved in together. It worked beautifully and had no issue.
We barely brought it up any more. Since then three months now , I've kicked the habit. I was not addicted so I quit cold turkey. Your situation might be different depending on how heavy of a smoker he is. Jul 22, 3, 0 Jawjuh. I was a smoker for 10 years.
Probably close to a pack a day. I started dating a guy who did not smoke. At first he seemed to not really care, but after several months of being in a relationship with each other he told me that he would never marry a smoker, much less propose to one.
I quit a few weeks later at the end of the month of June.