Connect to your existing Cracked account if you have one or create a new Cracked username. Living with your folks? Then your love life is totally and utterly screwed, if the internet trolls are to be believed. This despite the fact that you're probably awesome, statistically normal , and might actually be in the majority. More than a third of all Americans aged now live with their folks, making that the most common living situation for them.
And if that's the case, dating can get really weird, really fast. I can tell you from personal experience that Let's start off by acknowledging the obvious: Dating can be expensive. Going out to things like nice dinners, movies, and black market organ auctions ain't cheap, and traditionally in Western culture, men are expected to pay for that kind of stuff While a bunch of society has caught up to the fact that women are people too with, GASP , their own money!
But however you split it, I hope we can all agree that if you ask someone out, then show up penniless and expect the other person to pay for everything , you probably won't get a second date. Take it from personal experience, it also sucks to be asked out to an awesome concert or event when you're so broke that you're Googling local food banks, because no decent human being wants to be seen as a gold digger who's only dating to rack up entries for her foodie blog.
But the harsh truth is that there are really good, non-gold-digger reasons to wonder if someone's financially stable before your hearts and bodies get entangled.
Because unless both people are just in it for a one-night stand, if one of you is perpetually jobless, then the other could end up working two full-time jobs to take care of you both. It's actually not shallow to ask yourself if it's going to be a healthy relationship in which both people contribute equally, even if you end up deciding it's OK if one of you contributes in ways that aren't financial.
It's just smart to look at the long term before emotions get too heavy. Despite what Bon Jovi might tell you , being perpetually broke isn't actually romantic.
Sure, crashing in his van to live on love with his scruffy musical friends might seem romantic at first, but there are only so many cramped gas station washroom stall hookups you two can have before you start to think that maybe dating a guy who owns his own bed wouldn't be the worst thing in the world. Despite what your gut might be defensively screaming at you, I'm actually on the side of the broke person here.
I've been that broke-ass, and it sucks, trying to mask your broke-assed-ness. That said, I have a serious question: Do you have any idea how much money women spend to look that good for you? While you're complaining how unfair it is that you're expected to pay for expensive dinners -- and I totally agree with that complaint -- let's not overlook the ridiculous amount of money that women pay for hair, nails, clothes, skincare, waxing, and so much other stuff to give the illusion that they're perfect, naturally hairless beauty queens.Dating Broke Men!
Don't even get me started on the cost of lingerie, one of the most expensive and least durable things a woman will ever own. I've known women in brand-new relationships who've dropped hundreds of dollars on sexy little lace things to perfectly suit their new guy's hottest fantasies, only to see it left shredded on the bedroom floor in six seconds flat.
Which I'm sure is someone's fantasy. My point is that multiple, totally unfair standards can coexist at once. And yeah, there are obviously going to be some guys out there who blow money on new clothes, and some women who throw down their credit cards to pay for meals and dates.
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Bottom line is that if you blow a shitload of money you can't afford to during the wooing stage, then by the time the relationship is strong and solid enough that you're moving in together, you might also be looking at some pretty substantial debt. You're now spending the rest of your lives together, trying to pay off your "impression stage" dating.
That is a huge strain to put on any relationship. And if the relationship doesn't connect? You might as well have just thrown a match on that cash and put out the fire with your tears. But even if you don't end up digging your own financial grave, there's a very practical, common misconception that arises when things get comfortable.
When the money runs out, the one who's used to being treated is going to be thinking, "Why don't we do all the things we used to do? This relationship isn't as fun, exciting and spontaneous as it used to be. It's like as soon as you got comfortable with me, you stopped giving a shit. And that's not sustainable.
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The mechanics of the relationship fundamentally change, because mathematically, they have to. And by then, you've sabotaged your personal financial future and the future of your relationship. So how do you avoid that? Do you come clean right off the bat and say, "I can only afford meals that are ordered by saying a number"?
Well, that's kind of the problem, because I once had a friend whom I thought lived with the word's most interesting cast of zany housemates. Shortly thereafter, she received another message. A different girl had "liked" her -- a means of expressing interest in someone else on the site.
And then she asked what I did [for a living]. Despite Maria's optimism, clearly neither of these prospective mates was looking for someone "in transition.
According to BusinessNewsDaily in , chances are already not pretty for the unemployed out there looking for love.
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A survey of individuals found 75 percent of women were unlikely to date an unemployed man, while chances were slightly more favorable for unemployed, heterosexual women. Forty-six percent of men responded they would date an unemployed woman. Women, he notes, must compensate with "physical appearance and personality.
I could find no study analyzing similar data pertaining to non-heterosexual couples, but I doubt Maria's case is an anomaly. Still, when meeting a romantic contender in the "real world," there's at least a grain of amorous interest that, ideally, keeps either party from running for the door when they discover the other's employment situation is in shambles. Canty 5 years ago. Broke girls remain focused on keeping their hair and nails done.
Broke girls are always looking for a Baller in the club. Broke girls love to tell people what to spend money on. Broke girls LOVE social media. Have you ever taken a pic of your food at a restaurant? Have you ever posted a status about what you should wear? Have you ever taken a picture of yourself holding money? Broke girls give the worst goddamn gifts is history.