Oh I tell you, right in that moment, I just wanted to punch him on his face and break him into pieces! Mature men are like that, direct and upfront. Pro Did I mention I got abs now? Not to brag, but yes, I do! Will you be happy when that happens?
You had me at cuddling, but lost me at blanket stealing I read "worrier" as "warrior" and was confused for a second why that was a con. That's what everyone keeps telling me! They honestly really help me relax and I also love the look on his face when I start doing it. You've got some great pros!
And not that bad of cons. I've had way too much trouble finding people who can tolerate when I play video games. My cons can definitely be a lot to deal with, but the boyfriend has been so great with them, though they have caused some fights.
Can you explain this for me? I see my cons as really negative things, except for the last one, because it's kind of cute and silly, but the others don't seem good at all to me, but thank you for making me smile! But that's the same for everyone, don't be too harsh on yourself. Sometimes our pros outweigh our cons, sometimes it's the other way around. As long as you are working on improving yourself as much as you can, you're alright!
Having their behavior be irrelevant doesn't make it contradictory at all. As you can see, this is listed in my Cons. I know it's fucking stupid. That's why it's a Con. I've had the argument a hundred times. I'm not going to explain myself or try to make you understand. It's okay, I completely understand and have trouble explaining this to my bf also.
Totally feel ya on the jealousy and insecurity too. It's not like we want to have these feelings! It's as frustrating for us as it is for them, I think! I honestly have no idea. We don't have everything all tucked in and just have three comforters sitting on the bed to use how we want.
My boyfriend always has really, really big covers, so I never know which way they're supposed to be. Whenever he gets into bed, though, he informs me that they're sideways and then tries to change them, but it's much comfier to me the other way, so I switch them around.
I hog a lot of covers no bed hogging, though! Very independant and got my shit together. I've got my own house, car almost paid off, no student loan or credit card debt, decent job with possibilities of advancement. I'm a switch and enjoy playing both roles. I've got a high sex drive, can orgasm easily, and have fun while doing it. I've got lots of interesting stories from the various jobs and adventures I've had all the years. I know all the good places to eat in town and even if I haven't been there, I've read all the reviews and know the best things to order at different places.
I have fun hobbies and tend to keep on top of what fun events are going on around town so there is no worry about a boring night in if we want to go out. I'm very upfront with my feelings. I'll tell you if you are annoying me. I'll talk openly about sex and anything I want in that area. I expect the same.
I'm fine not chatting for a couple days. I've had severe depression throughout most of my life. Currently I'm on an upswing and thanks to therapy giving me the tools to use, I don't get as low as I used to, but occasionally I will get pretty down. I need to go to bed at an early hour pm and tend to wake up around 5 without an alarm. On the weekends I can usually stay up late for one night, but I can't do that more than one night in a row without many naps. A switch is someone who enjoys and identifies with being both a Dom and a sub.
I like to play as either side and am able to switch which one I am at a certain time. You have a dream? I'll be your personal cheerleader through the entire thing. I have to give something up, move, work to support you?
You're gonna be whatever you want to be. I really try hard to be sweet and to make you smile. My goal in life is to make those close to me happy, so if you're closest to me, I'm going to put a lot of effort into creating joy and eliminating sadness. I'm comfortable, and low-mainteance. I don't need expensive meals or gifts, a lot of nights out, or anything like that. I'll happily watch TV next to you all night, or watch you play video games, or Reddit next to you while you work on a hobby.
I love taking my SO out, I love treating him, I love buying random things for him and doing him favors. I randomly bought him a 3DS and some games for it because he'd been out of town and I missed him.
Basically, I spoil people I love. I don't get jealous or possessive. You'll never have to worry about me going through your phone or freaking out over dinner with a friend or not letting you watch porn. If you go to the strip club with your buddies, I'll encourage it because I love the fun stories the next morning.
I am so, so lazy. I am perfectly content to stay in all day and all night, on the couch, in my pajamas, watching Netflix and ordering pizza and playing the Sims. If you want to go on some grand date adventure, I'm up for it I'm not all that ambitious, either.
I want to be in a job that isn't straining, where I make enough money to live totally comfortably I don't really want kids. I guess this could be a pro or con, but I'm thinking generally it's seen negatively. I'm stubborn as a goat. I'll realize I'm wrong halfway into an argument and keep going for another hour just because I just can't force myself to be better than that. On the topic of arguing, I can get cold and distant faster than the polar vortex. I used to get over-emotional in arguments, crying and yelling, and then I realized how damaging that was - but I think I went too far in the other direction.
My SO sometimes complains that he can't feel that I love him during our fights, because I just I can be a little needy at times, when I feel sad for no reason and I don't know if I want comfort or if I want my space.
Be prepared for some "leave me alone! Uh give me some space! My birth control has made my libido very low lately, and it's given me a 2-week on, 2-week off cycle for my period, so sex is I do my best to make myself indispensable.
I cook and clean when I can. I give cuddles, back rubs, and head scratches all the time. I want sex several times a week. I'm eager to please. I'm not always in control of my emotions and I'm generally depressed and want to die. I get super anxious and snippy over little things. I'm pretty sure I am a horrible person.
I love a little too fervently read: I have a very high sexual appetite. I consensus says give awesome beej's. I like sports and most boy stuff.
I enjoy my alone time as much as I enjoy time with you. I give awesome massages. I have a short fuse. I lack a filter of what comes in my mind, flies out my mouth. I have Low confidence. I am a Bed hog. I'm all about sex. I'll probably want it just as much, if not more, than he does. And I'm pretty adventurous about it. I am enthusiastic about it, and open to discussing it and trying new things in the bedroom.
I love being able to do even the smallest things for the people I care about. On your way back from the gym? Expect your favorite protein shake to be ready when you walk in through the door. I'm a curious person and really like to understand everything, which can lead to me asking a lot of questions, especially when a disagreement arises. This sometimes gets interpreted negatively. I don't know if I want kids. It's the only thing I can say when asked.
I have no timelines, I have no strong feelings either way, and it'll be defined by how the rest of my life goes.
You are adorable with your super-detailed and analytical list.
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You sound like a real catch for the person who can find you under all that introversion. Dunno why, but I get a lot of omgwow stuff afterwards, even after being married for a long time. I get careless with language sometimes. I don't say things in the right tone, and if you do the same I'll tell you exactly where you can stick it. Cons -I have a temper. Very rarely will I ever turn down sex or sexual fantasies. Make yummy food 3. Talk dirty in Russian 5. Will not cheat or smother 6. Big time family oriented 7.
Adventurous partner in crime. I need my space 2. I can be hypercritical when I know you can do better 3. Avoid conflict a lot which often leads to issues building up and not being resolved 5. Described as 'overly independent' be ex's 6. Anxiety and occasional ED relapses. I will feed you delicious, almost-gourmet food whenever you want. I'm really, really good at being a "girlfriend.
I have my shit together, know what I want from life, and am willing to make the changes to have a strong relationship as well as my dream career. You will have to share me and my time with my boyfriend and my partner. I get really really anxious a lot, and need a partner who can calm me down sometimes, which can be a pain in the butt. I have what some guys would consider to be inappropriate boundaries with friends.
For some people, sure. But I have gotten practice at balancing my time and priorities as needed. The people who get into these situations are usually more understanding about it all, as well, since they are getting into the relationship willingly and knowing full well what I can and cannot be.
As someone who could never be in a non-monogamous relationship, what you quote does not strike me as odd at all, actually. You can be dedicated, loyal, and always there for someone while still having your time shared with others. For example, my mother is always there for me and is dedicated and loyal to a fault, but I have to share her and her time with my brother and father. What if both people need her? What happens when time conflicts?
Do people ever feel less loved or like they get less attention or dedication?
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Im just curious because I know I would feel like my partner wasnt loyal or dedicated or there for me if they were also in love with someone else, but Im sure it can work for some other people. I mean, the only thing I can liken it to is my familial relationships.
How does a single parent manage when both children need them? You can be there for more than one person at a time. I dont think you can compare family and romantic relationships. They are very different. Im not possessive or jealousy with my family, I dont care if they love anyone else. I think most people feel that way? My mom loves me more. But its ok because my step dad loves my brother more seeing as how he's his, I can't really fault him for that.
I'm keeping my fingers crossed for a guy to turn up soon who thinks the same thing. Don't stress about the LTR stuff. These things will happen eventually and you'll be surprised just how easily it can fall in to place with the right person. Apart from the annoying voice in your head which we all have to shut out sometimes, what to do and how to do it will come naturally.
That's so sweet of you to say so! That's very reassuring to hear as well, so thank you. In good and bad ways. Sometimes that means staying up all night baking or crafting something awesome for you, sometimes that means being really rigid about certain things and getting upset when that's difficult. I look after my SO. I make sure he has his work clothes out on the bed whilst he's in the shower.
I'm low maintenance, financially speaking. I don't buy make-up, that many clothes. I'm a gamer and have a gorgeous PC and games library. I have Tomophobia fear of operations and stuff - anything like that. Last night I got a piece of glass in my foot, a tiny piece, and freaked the fuck out when my SO held my foot still and tried to pull it out with tweezers [and when I say freaked the fuck out, that was an understatement].
I am highly emotional. I often cry for no reason, my SO still doesn't know how to handle that. I am slowly breaking out of my shell but there are still times where I feel the need to lock myself in the bedroom alone for a day or so. I'm a failure in the natural beauty department.
I can make myself look like an 8, but I'm lucky if I roll out of bed looking like a I dislike giving up opportunities because an SO would rather I didn't go someplace or do something. AKA I do what I wannna. I am kinda a mother hen so a clean house and quality food etc is something you'll get used to.
In the same vein I'll take care of you like you're the only man on earth when you need me to. My sex drive is high and I'll do ya any way ya ask me to within reason, no poopin' on me or anything I am better at video games than you. I will play you and eventually beat you at whatever you choose. I can be neurotic and spazzy when under stress or tight deadlines and sometimes will ask to be left alone.
I worry about a lot of random stupid shit that is generally irrelevant and may eventually piss you off. I attract attention from men constantly because of my job, if you are the jealous type, the relationship is fucked. I'm an information specialist. I can find basically anything in any library or database including the internet , then organise or interpret that data. ADD leads to anger issues. I have a short temper and little patience when I'm frustrated.
I am, however, never violent. ADD also leads to memory loss. I think I've had conversations I've just run through in my head, and I forget conversations I have had, regardless of their importance. I often focus on things a little too closely, to the detriment of things around me. I once played pokemon for 3 days, neglecting my boyfriend and my job search. I particularly enjoy good zombie games, books, comics, movies and tv shows. I cried at the end of the first season of TellTale's Walking Dead game.
I have all the tools. Handsome, charismatic, intelligent, loving. But, I'd much rather go off the rails together and live in our own world. I don't need expensive dates or expensive gifts to feel loved or cared for. I actually feel really uncomfortable when people spend money on me.
I know what I want and like, but I'm willing to make compromises and enjoy trying new things. I enjoy doing simple things with my kiddo. Like trying to catch lizards or teaching her the fundamentals of mud pie making. I remember what my S. I can remember their birthday. I give killer massages licensed massage therapist I am calm when expressing something that concerns me and I'm not passive aggressive.
I give my partner space and am not needy. I don't play games to see if they care about me or not. I love sex and have a good sex drive. Past boyfriends have told me I just made them feel loved and cared for.
Skydiving is my life in the summer. Might not see me a lot. I'm always tired, I have really bad anxiety disorders, I'm lazy, shy, quiet, and I like to be alone a lot.
And I get overly-emotional. I really am lucky that my SO has stayed with me for this long. I will also pet your animals. I'll go out of my comfort zone to spend time with friends sometimes but there are days where I need to be alone to feel relaxed.
I tend to like 'me-time' sometimes more often than not; maybe not a con, I don't know. I am endlessly patient, kind, supportive, and thoughtful - I listen well, and I give very good gifts.
If I am dating you, you'll probably be the type to appreciate my wit, which is well-honed and quick. I am diagnosed with Bipolar II.
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I will need support and love, although I would not call myself needy. You will probably have to remind me a hundred times that I should be doing my grading. Pro- I'm a spoiler! Con- I can't communicate. I'm a bottler and I tend to blow up.
I'm a very emotional person and I like my privacy and alone time. I can't be smothered. If I'm with you, I like a lot of attention. I have a very oddly set work schedule so I doubt the small amount of time I can spare to be with you is asking a lot to be a little more focused. I'm dieting so he has to deal with me constantly counting calories, keeping healthier food around, and not splurging on junk.
I am very open to try new things and I love snuggling and sex is almost always on the table. I get very anxious about minor plan changes, if we're going to dinner and suddenly your friend is invited I'm going to get upset and try to hide it, I'm also paranoid about being fat: I'm a neat freak so if we live together things will be clean Excellent cook and baker Love sex Intelligent Have a lot of lingerie could be a con, cause of the money I spend on it, lol.
Can be a bit stubborn and inflexible A little overweight Gassy Moody if I don't have regular sex. I'm very open-minded, sexually adventurous, and I will be hella devoted to you.
Also I will make sure we go on awesome dates. I have no prior relationship experience; I don't know how to be in a relationship, and close physical contact can make me nervous because I feel like I'm doing everything wrong. I'm pretty introverted; being around masses of people makes me tired and, eventually, irritated, and I'm shy around people I don't know. I move slowly in relationships, and am slow to trust people, generally.
I'll second-guess myself for quite a while when it comes to our interactions. I'm smart, wild, crazy, incredibly independent, a fantastic cook, and have a very playful and adventurous side. I'm almost entirely too obsessed with intellectual pursuits, I drink and smoke a lot and can be a bit too wild and crazy, Relationships make me feel stifled and I have trouble making time for people, I'm vegan, and I may not ever settle down.
I'm an introvert and require a little more alone time than your average bear to "recharge". This sometimes makes people think I'm upset with them when I'm not. I won't even consider other men in "that" way once you and I are an item. I am charming as fuck. I will get super excited about good stuff that happens for you, no matter how small you feel it is. Yay video games and crap. Hopefully you're an introvert too! I'll address yours and help you all day long, but it is difficult for me to share my own issues.
I can carry on intelligent conversations, and work my way through problems rationally. I want you to be happy, and will do my best to keep romance alive, even if that just means buying more bacon.
I mostly have my shit together in life and should have a pretty decent career ahead of me. I get along with all kinds of people, and also can shut people out I don't need to deal with to cut out unnecessary drama. I'm depressed a lot, no idea why I'm depressed a lot. Stressed out tons, obsessed with my image, and while I'm aware that can live without it, I feed off of your validation like a drug.
I love sex, I love love, I'm loyal and I'm insanely honest which has been a con occasionally in the past , I like spoiling the people I'm with, I'm a big cuddler big spoon! Im really very silly. I'm open minded, and I laugh really damn loud. There's been so much abuse in my life that getting that trust is an actively painful process for me, I have commitment issues that come from abandonment issues from my past, I can be a little obsessive when I dont understand something, especially when it's where I stand.
I have some confidence issues, but I hide it well behind my happy go lucky cockyness Basically I require a lot of love and assurance, sometimes. I love to try new things, which makes relationships fun. I've been told I'm incredibly "chill," so there's no drama with me. I'm pretty much always down to bang. I take joy in "nurturing" and making my guy feel loved and comfortable at all times.
I love deep, provocative discussion. I am terribly indecisive! I'm also a bad cook aside from baking. I'm slow to fully trust someone. Sometimes I go through pretty lazy phases and I imagine that would be irritating. I like to challenge myself and try new things. I'll go on a 9-mile hike with you even if I haven't before, or learn how to ski, or whatever you're into. I like to have sex. I am passionate, friendly, loyal, and I'm willing to share time, problems, thoughts equally.
I have a chronic stomach condition that makes me sick often, especially when I drink, which I unfortunate because I drink a lot of beer. Though nobody can tell, they would be grossed out if they knew. I am willing to try new things and embark on adventures with you sports, travel, interest groups. I would consider myself an interesting person: I take responsibility for things. I won't become dependent upon you unless the situation calls for it.
I can lead my own life, but love having you around because it makes me happy. I'll come up with ideas for fun things to do. I'll keep up my end of the conversation if you keep up yours. Sometimes I need some solid ground in my life.
I tend to change things a lot, just because an opportunity arises. I go through phases of being very socially active - being the life of the party and being the one to organize all the activities, send out invites, and host events.
And then sometimes I withdraw and lose touch with friends for a few months, and mostly just see family and my SO. I feel bad for my boyfriend sometimes because he has to deal with me.. I wonder what his response would be to this. Late to the party, but oh well. Most of the things I bake are completely from scratch. I'll go above and beyond what you expected in every sense of the word. I'll support you in just about everything you do.
I'll always be there for you, no matter what. I will always be faithful. I've got jealousy issues, which spawn from my insecurity. I'm high maintenance, in the way that I do need a lot of attention.
I need to feel loved, which comes from the insecurity issues. I take things personally when I shouldn't. I'm not a fair fighter. I suffer from depression, and it comes out fairly often. I'm kind of a mess, at least recently. I apologize, but that's just masking the problem, not stopping it.
I'm very giving and loving and I try to make my SO feel good as much as I'm able, I don't get angry so I won't yell ever really maybe a con because while I don't get angry, I do get hurt and cry. I have bad health.
I have narcolepsy so that means sometimes I'm just too tired to do planned things and that I take frequent naps, I have a stomach disorder that makes me very picky because if I'm not I get really painfully sick , I've also got in debt and I've never had a job medical bills.
So I'm kind of expensive and my health is bad but I'm lucky my boyfriend has the money to spare and he has the patience and love of cuddling so he naps with me: I try to be as humble as possible and not be too stubborn in fights, I am very empathetic, I am up to trying new things, I'm comfortable in my sexuality, I can always find something to talk about, I am happy hanging out even if we're not doing much, I am very passionate, very loyal, and I think I am not too bad of a looker!
Sometimes I allow my emotions to control what I say and I stay in emotion driven moods longer than I should, I can be generally quite lazy, I don't have really any spending money, I get bored easily, I have some anxiety issues, and I talk too much about things no one cares about. This probably speaks volumes about my self esteem, but I honestly have no idea why my husband married me. I don't cook, I rarely clean, I hate dishes and laundry, I'm lazy as fuck, and do things only for myself.
I'm smart, quick-witted, flirty, affectionate, a goof, a good cook, understanding, laid back, and accepting. I can be bubbly or hyper to the point of annoyance. I talk a LOT. I am a very good baker. I bake a lot. I am a little bit needy, but then when I get a lot of attention from a SO, I feel smothered and freak out. I can be funny. I like to make people laugh and I have a lot of fun stories to share.
I also really like hearing other people's stories. I like making people happy. I will make you delicious food, give you cuddles and backrubs, and give you little presents just because. I don't make much money.
I'm independent, but I do live quite modestly. So if you want to travel, it'll take a lot of planning and probably debt. I won't be in a position to consider something like buying a house, or even living alone, anytime soon.
I work nights, and I'll be studying this year. So I probably won't see you as much as I'd like. I work pretty much every weekend. A good problem solver who will save you from trouble. Super down to earth. I want to watch you play video games. I don't remove body hair so much anymore. Can hold an intelligent conversation, I am funny, I like to be independent, I like to go on adventures, I like surprises, I can be incredibly sexy, I can be active, I enjoy sports.
I like my alone time. This is a pro if you also like your alone time. A con if you're needier, I guess. If I'm angry, I'll wait to calm down and then we'll talk about whatever made me angry. I have expensive taste in everything. I don't expect you to drop tons of cash on me, but I won't lie and say I don't like it. I love to cook and will cook every meal at home including pack your work lunches and love to bake.
Faithful and honest very open to new things in the bedroom try to make others happy I have a great memory Am money concious and don't like paying for things to be one sided almost never get angry.
Low self-esteem Tend to blame myself for things which can get frustrating I tend to worry about money etc a bit shy get anxious around big groups of people. I'm really funny, and I do great banter for your entertainment, and the entertainment of everyone at the grocery store hopefully with your participation Con: I can be annoying and am unlikely to stop singing the first time you ask me.
I am ambitious and I know what I want in life basically, if not specifically in some cases Con: I like to bounce ideas off you, but I will probably go with whatever I think is best, anyway. I was just curious and wanted to talk it out. I'm generous and like to share what I have. I get kinda bitter when I feel like my generosity is being taken for granted. I'm a really good communicator and like to talk things out. I'm a really good cook. I am not a very good housekeeper.
Well, I'm working on it. I am sexually very open to new ideas. I'll try pretty much anything once, and probably more than once. I like to think of myself as a touching introvert. I like touching, but touching uses energy, it doesn't give me energy. Frankly, it can be exhausting.
So non-stop cuddling is not for me. I have two awesome cats that are absolutely adorable. I have two furry cats that leave their hair on absolutely everything. I'm a really awesome girlfriend. I have a really awesome boyfriend, who is the man I want to spend the rest of my like with Just a little outside flirting for now, but maybe a secondary boyfriend spot will open up in the future. Always up for anything - want to go to the Opera?
Want to go to a book signing? Hang out at a coffee shop? Participate in a hackathon? Randomly travel to Vegas and place odds against the 38 point spread for the Broncos? Easily amused - I will genuinely laugh at all of your jokes, and because I am nerdy across many different topics, I will also get your jokes about Physics and the Avengers. Independent and stubborn - I am the oldest daughter of a single parent household.
I raised my sisters, I paid for my college education, worked from the age of 16 and done my own taxes , and was on my own financially since This means I usually prefer going fifty-fifty on things, I really don't like being showered with money or gifts, and if I have a problem, I appreciate support, but I am going to solve it myself and with my own decisions.
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I have a big girl job. I actually enjoy video games. I love my job. I am in no hurry to meet your parents. Sometimes it will take me more than 20 minutes to get ready to go out. I love to travel.