This is a guest post by Debra Fileta. You can guest post too by clicking here. I wrote two articles recently that made their way around the web. I received an overwhelming amount of amazing feedback from these articles, but I also received a bit of passionate backlash. I heard from some people who commented that they dated and married these kinds of people, and that I was wrong for making such a list.
Being equally yoked means being on the same page spiritually.Dating Myth #4: Missionary Dating Works
You should both be heading in the same direction and aiming for the same destination. Dating people into the faith rarely ends well.
Why missionary dating doesnt work
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Dating Is Not the Time to Be a Missionary
Think about your circle of friends, the people who live on your street, and the people in your NewSpring Group. What about addictions and abusive relationships?
What about continuous patterns of dishonesty and deceit? He was a solid, committed Christian who had recently entered a relationship with a 5 foot 4 bombshell young woman- the problem is that this particular bomb was on the brink of exploding. She was a sweet girl who was close to perfect on the outside…but on the inside, her life was in disarray.
The problems of her past were overwhelming her, slowly trickling into her present, and she was haunted by extreme emotional ups and downs, low self-esteem, anger and even addictions. She was feeling empty, hoping for someone to fill her up. In walks her prince charming. There was an instant attraction between them, and his heart went out to her and the struggles she was going through.
He saw so much potential in her, if she only knew how much Jesus loved her. They started dating and soon began their emotional roller-coaster.
Missionary Dating: On a Mission to Get Him Saved
He, trying to rescue her from her pain. She, constantly hurting him as a result of her pain. When I met him, he had reached the end of his rope. After two years of dating he felt so emotionally connected to this young woman and to her pain…but her pain, habits, and hang-ups were slowly starting to destroy even him.
First, get with one or two of your close Christian friends and begin praying for this guy. Only God can change his heart. Ask Him to do that. Secondly, talk to your youth pastor or some other Christian adult, preferably a male, and ask him to begin witnessing to this guy.
Ask him to talk to this guy about his relationship with the Lord. God could be saving you from a lot of heartache and pain.
Or someday, this guy may become a Christian and the two of you may begin a wonderful relationship. Then all these other things you need will be given to you Matthew 6: