Splitting up is hard, but it's great to have your ex wanting you back. The process of getting her back starts right after you break up. Everything you do can potentially hurt or help your case. By taking the time to analyze your relationship, work on yourself, and strategically communicate with her, you can win her back. This article was co-authored by our trained team of editors and researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness. Together, they cited information from 11 references. It also received 12 testimonials from readers, earning it our reader-approved status.
Tell her, "I respect that you don't want to meet up, let me know if you change your mind. It would be great to see you. To win her back, you must do all of the things that you did to make her interested in you the first time. If you used to send her flowers or write her sweet notes, begin to do those things again.
Think of this opportunity as a new relationship. You need to make her fall for you again. This will only make you look insecure or weak. You want her to take you back because you are a great guy not because she feels sorry for you.
Avoid bringing up the past.
You and your ex are starting over again. Focus on the positive things that made your relationship work the first time around.
If she enjoyed your cooking, prepare a nice meal for her. Focus on building new memories with her. She needs to see how things will be different this time around. You cannot pick up where you left off when you get back together. Treat this as a new relationship. Take your time and get to know each other again. You also do not want to overwhelm her or put pressure on her to get back together.
Focus on building a strong friendship. Go out on dates and do activities together. Learn her likes, dislikes, and habits again. Hold off on the physical aspect of the relationship and spend more time talking. Know when to give up. If your ex completely resists all of your effort, you need to respect her decision. If she tells you to leave her alone or that she has moved on, you need to move on as well. Being too needy and persistent will make you look bad and could ruin any chances of getting her back in the future.
If she has a new boyfriend, be respectful of her new relationship. Do not try to get her to break up with her new boyfriend. Be patient and see if her new relationship is serious or just a rebound. Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered. Already answered Not a question Bad question Other. Tips Heartbreak is hurtful, but be strong.
Talk to her, and if she doesn't want you back, accept it and move on. It may take longer to get back together than you expected. You want getting back together to be your ex girlfriend's idea. Be the man she has always wanted. Even if you do not get her back, know that you will be ok. Did you try these steps? Upload a picture for other readers to see. Tell us more about it? Click here to share your story. Article Info This article was co-authored by our trained team of editors and researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.
For whatever reason, the minute we find out that an ex has potentially begun dating someone new, the first thing we all do is go online and attempt to stalk their every move.
Seeing him looking positively smitten in a photo with someone new in his arms is enough ammunition to make you want to crawl into bed and never want to leave, so why put yourself through that kind of torture?
If you want to make handling your ex and his new bae as easy as it possibly can be, your best bet is to stay out of stalker mode. Keeping your schedule booked to the max with relaxing activities and exciting adventures could be just what you need to finally break free from whatever depressing spell seeing your ex happy has you under.
Instead of staying home under the covers and groveling in your own misery, take a step in the right direction by breaking out of your comfort zone and trying things that will take your mind off of your ex and his new bae. When it comes to finding hobbies that will relax you and in some cases, excite you , there are a seemingly endless amount. At first, you assumed that remaining friends with your ex would be a breeze… until he took it upon himself to start dating again and every emotion you ever had for him came rushing back all at once.
The fact of the matter is, your ex is totally irrelevant and he should not have an impact on your emotions the way he used to. Your relationship came to an end and he decided that he was ready to start dating again. You might feel a wide range of emotions from sadness to anger to everything in between. The sight of him with someone else might make you want to run into his arms and win him back, and it also might make you want to seek revenge in the form of shacking up with the next available man you see.
It takes a lot of strength to find the silver lining when your ex suddenly resurfaces with a new girl on his arm but understanding that he deserves to be happy will eventually open the door for you to someday find romantic happiness of your own. Book yourself a relaxing day at the spa or take a few of your best friends on a spur of the moment girls only getaway.
Do whatever it takes to remove yourself from a super draining situation, even if that means going on a mini-vacation to give yourself a much needed restart on reality. While nothing will really change and your ex will still be with his new bae whether you like it or not, taking a few moments to de-stress will ultimately help you sort through everything that your old flame throws your way.
She wants her new relationship to work and is committed to her new guy. Convincing her to be with you is going to take a lot of patience and a lot of luck.
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But if you think she is worth it; then you owe it to yourself to give it a try. Although, I highly recommend that you try only once; and if she does not respond positively; you leave her alone and move on. You are better off spending your time and energy focusing on yourself, moving on and attracting new girls.
If you do things that make it super obvious you want her to breakup with her new boyfriend; it will make your ex-girlfriend put up her defenses and cut you out. Instead, you need to just be the best version of yourself and focus on rebuilding attraction and connection with your ex girlfriend. As she starts feeling more and more attracted towards you, she will start feeling more and more distant from her new boyfriend. Getting her to meet you while she is still dating the other guy is going to be a big challenge.
This is especially true if she is committed to the new relationship. In most cases, her new relationship is going to be a rebound and she or her new boyfriend will eventually end it. Hopefully, just getting back in touch with you and realizing she still has feelings for you should be enough for her to break up with her new boyfriend.
Girls usually consider meeting an ex; without the knowledge of your boyfriend or girlfriend; a betrayal of trust. So, she is probably going to deny your invitation of meeting up, even if she has feelings for you and wants to meet up. She simply wants to maintain her integrity in her own eyes. Of course, there are exceptions to the above rule, and if you think your ex-girlfriend is one, you can straight up ask her out on a coffee or to meet up for drinks. But if you think your ex-girlfriend holds herself to high standards; you might want to find a loophole for her dilemma.
These are all great ways to give her an excuse to see you without making her feel like she is betraying her new boyfriend. If you have followed everything in this article, then your ex-girlfriend will probably dump her new boyfriend by herself.
But if she needs a little push, you must give her a strong reason to dump her new boyfriend for you. The best way to do that is if you can show her not tell her ; that everything will be different this time. You need to show her that you have really changed for the better and you are going to be this way whether or not you get her back. You want her to realize that you are a high-quality guy and the next girl you are going to be with is going to be very lucky. We have covered a lot of ground in this article.
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Before commenting, read commenting guidelines. Hi Ryan I was in a relationship for 5 years and we broke up like 1 and half years now. I went through no contact several times. I went through a great changes both physically and mentally and she also did the same. I was trying to move on when she sent me a text message checking up on me so obviously that opened up the line of communication. So we started having lil talks.
My best mates visited her and she told him that she got a bf but later she denies it. So anytime the issue of bf comes up she get angry and says she is not dating. Later on when I pressed her cos I heard the guy came from another state to visit her and she said this to me after a night with the guy. He is someone who took interest in her and she just going with the flow but she will never loved anyone the way she ever loved me, we had a family get other this festive season and she was there.
We had a deep convo for the first time and she asked me about my love life and I was completely honest with her that I had a couple of girls and also I was trying to date. She seems alright but later she told me that whilst she only had one guy I had so many girls that I look cheap. She sent me messages thanking me for opening up with her and also she said she tries to cut me out but she can't because I am a friend and also like a family.
On new years eve we had a group dinner and she had a call from the guy she quickly told him she will call him back. We talked about our getting back and she said it going to be a long process. She sometimes act cold or hot towards me. She becomes more appreciative about things I do for her but she wont give open up and I think I am a bit impatient with that. What should I do. Thank you so so much for this, I know a lot would have a positive vibe and outcome because of this!
My girlfriend left me for another guy after 4 years and we even lived together. I want her back what should I do? It's probably just a rebound and your best bet is to focus on yourself for now and allow that relationship to pass it's honeymoon phase so that it becomes clearer to everyone.
In the meantime, give her space and follow our 5-step guide as it would help you increase your chances when you reach out later on. Hi Ryan, Man my situation right now is a bit different.
Me and my GF broke up 3 week ago. I did no contact and everything and started talking to her again. It went very smoothly and she said we can be best friends for now as I can't come in any relationship with anyone. A guy proposed her but she refused. But right now she talks to me about guy she has crush on and everything about there talks. What sign can I take it as and what should I do to get her back?
I have done a lot of improvements in myself and on the reasons which caused the break-up. The best thing you can do right now is to keep calm and be confident, while building up this friendship you have with her into something more personal again.
Avoid getting needy or insecure and projecting these feelings to your ex, because it would only push her away. Me and my girlfriend for 4 years broke up 3 weeks ago and for one week I acted like a maniac and did all those things which you mentioned as mistakes.
After reading your article I did NC but in a day she contacted me and said that no matter what she will not be able to come in any relation with anyone but there is a guy who is similar to what she always admired to be her husband.
She is in constant talk with him and loves to talk to him too. We broke up because of my insecurities, trying to control her and attention issues. I have improved a lot by now but I don't see any hope of getting her back. I am 22 and my girlfriend is 23 years old.
What should I do in this case?
Please reply to my query as this is the 3rd time I am posting this. If you want to win her back, you're going to have to ultimately meet her expectations and come across as someone who is the better option in comparison to the other guy.
Start by becoming friends again before you try to build on the connection and attraction with her further, but before you even go into that, it might be a good idea to complete no contact first in order to give her some space to let go of the negative events that took place after the breakup. I did the NC but right now we are talking like best friends.
I mean she shares everything with me about every event going on in her life be it personal or career related. Right now she is saying she don't want anyone in her life until she achieve what she wants but if she feels about someone she might go for him. What can I do in this situation? Shall I be continue like this and get in friends zone?
She might end up adding me to her besets friends list but may never accept me as her Bf. As long as you don't get emotional or act needy and continue to maintain this friendship with her, there are many opportunities for you to turn things around as you continue to build the connection between both parties, while subtly adding bits of flirting to the mix.
Hey, me and my ex broke up about a week ago. She claims that she wants to get back together in the future and still loves me. Well since she is still responding to you, it means your chances are still there and this other guy is simply competition that you ultimately have to overcome.
Prove that you're the better choice and avoid getting insecure or jealous because technically the relationship with you has officially ended and she's free to meet whoever she wants. My girlfriend and I have been having arguments lately and she called things off ,immediately after that was very emotional and begged her to take me back but she wouldn't listen ,she told me she has a new guy and told me to move on ,we have been in a long distance relationship for about two years and always felt connected ,I want her back so could do with some tips.
The new guy could simply be a rebound but if the relationship had started almost immediately after the breakup, there's a chance that she was cheating on you already prior to the relationship officially ending.
Keep in mind that if the lack of physical contact was one of the major reasons leading to the breakup, unless you're able to do something to close in on the distance, it's going to be hard to convince her or build attraction. Hey,please advise me,we have stayed with my girlfred for 4 yrs and we have a daughter who happens to love me most,my lady is trustworthy but we had financial problems n due to joblessness I used to beat her up whenever we had issues.
I suggest giving her time to cool off and you should consider working on your anger management issues because this is probably what made her leave in the first place. You're going to have to make it up to her and convince her that you've changed ensure you actually do so. Hey Kevin, So about a month ago my gf broke up with me for a few different reasons, including me being a little overprotective and scared of other sexual partners being involved.
After grief I made the mistake of keeping up contact and that made me feel worse due to the memories that brought. After being a little too desperate, she decided to block me for a short while I grief. She says she still loves me and cherishes what we had, but she wants to be single and sleep around etc.
She also stated that she had "lost feelings" for me, and didn't feel the same as she used to. I'm just wondering if there is any advice you could offer, she said that I shouldn't hold out hope for her, but she also said that maybe one day something might happen but definitely no promise as she could come out of her time single as a different person.
I'm also wondering if I should let her know I'm going to start no contact to work on myself, or if I should just start. We also share the same friendship group. I would suggest simply going into it and only consider bringing it up if she messages you first or asks why you haven't spoken to her.
Avoid meeting with the friend group for the time being, especially when she is around since it could set back your progress. Hey Kevin, Me and my ex were dating for 6 months. The first 5 months were good. We had some bumps on the way but we managed to stick it through. The 6th month however was the worst.
We kept fighting about her boy best friend because I had a feeling that he likes her. So each day we kept fighting about it when it came to the point where she said she lost all her love for me and wants to break up but be best friends.
So I accepted it but I was broken. But she refused and said that she wants to focus on herself and her schoolwork. She tells me how she needs time alone about a week. But then 2 weeks after the relationship she moved on with her boy best friend I said liked her.
But I still want to be with her. How do I make her come back to me and leave that guy? Is this a rebound relationship? What can I make her do to make her see that I can make changes for her? Remember that while this guy may have had intentions all along to be with her, her relationship with you was what prevented him any chance of doing so and in turn remained best friends with her through the period.
Although the fighting was caused because you felt insecure about him, nothing was going to happen as long as she had feelings for you still. She was right in saying that it was the arguments and stress from it that led to the breakup, which gave him the chance to finally move in after she broke up with you.
Honestly, instead of outrightly trying to win her back, which paints you as a needy and desperate person, take some time to recover now and I suggest making the same move as he did in sticking by her as friends and not overstepping boundaries. Let the relationship self-destruct on its own and help her through it, instead of trying to break them up directly. Hey guys or gals, My name is Chance and I was just wondering if anyone actually comments back on this at all still?
If so here goes. My ex and I dated for 3 years, we met and kinda skipped the proper courting stages and had sex right away really. She got pregnant within months and have a gorgeous 2 year old baby girl together. We moved in together and she had a son already that 4 at the time. We tried to work through our personal differences while figuring out how to love each other and we failed more than we succeeded.
I had major trust issues from my past long before I met her and let that be he main reason I was unwilling to fully commit and try my hardest. Given the duration of relationship and link you share with your ex because of the kid, it's likely that this current guy is a rebound who provides her with novel feelings that she probably didn't feel with you, especially towards the end of the relationship.
I would suggest giving her some space before reaching out to connect with her again. You can start off initially with wanting to spend time with your kid, which gives you an opportunity to remain in contact with her, and eventually subtely show her through your interactions with her that you've changed since breaking up.
My girlfriend Broke up with me after 5 days at uni. I wasn't their for her the first couple of days and one guy was and she is now with him. I miss her so much but she thinks the new girl will treat her so much better.
Is their anything I can do? If she could decide so quickly to drop her current relationship simply to chase down something new, then you may not want to push for her to come back, at least not for the time being because until her emotional maturity grows, there's a good chance of her repeating the same actions whenever someone comes along.
Ok to start it off. I was in a relationship with my ex for 3 years. She cheated on her long term partner with me after we became really close friends.
She later on broke up with him but we decided to take it slow and dated two months before getting together. We were really happy but by the time we got to our second year we started to drift apart. I started to lose attraction for her and it upset her.
We got into arguments about not caring enough for one another. She then decided to dump me. Two weeks later she is going out with my best friend who I have been friends with for 20 years. This hurt me a lot, it also hurt me because it is a fairly long distance relationship which is something she said she would never do. So I took 1 month off with no contact, worked on my self. Two days after no contact she messaged me out of the blue saying that she is so sorry for how things happened and that see felt bad of how she handled it.
She said she is much happier now and that her BF my ex best friend makes her happy. However we text quite frequently and she replies to me quite quickly. I am not sure if her boyfriend knows or not. I really care about her and want her back but also part of me wants revenage and another part feels like I could never trust her. How should I proceed? Would I be able to get her back permenantly?
If you genuinely want to win her back, you're going to have to work on first getting over the resentment and lingering feelings of distrust, or both aspects would come back to eventually haunt the relationship even if you do succeed in getting her back.
If she is willing to give it another shot, I would suggest doing your best to make changes and to address the issues that caused the relationship to fall apart. Understand your reasons for feeling insecure and the need to control or manipulate, and perhaps consider being more mindful to avoid doing it to her or she would probably leave for good because by then, she would have determined that you haven't changed and given up altogether.
Im 21yrs old and my ex gf is 20yrs where on same sex relationship girl-girl we've been on our relationship about 4yrs and 1month. We broke up because her thinking is what if one day she wants to form a family or marry a guy.
I asked her if shes happy or if shes still loves me she said shes happy and she loves me so much and we dont have any problem on our relationship. She didnt have a boyfriend since then im her first long term relationship. Were broke up about 2months but after our break up she starts entertaining the guy whose chatting her. I think by now there in a relationship the guy and my ex. She blocked me on IG and twitter but she didnt block me on facebook, she keeps on posting on Facebook mentioning the guy like shes trying let everyone's know that shes in a relationship with the guy and shes very lucky to have her hence shes not that type of person because shes a private type in terms of relationship.
I dont know if shes still into me or shes on a rebound relationship. What will i do to get her back? These situations can be a bit tricky because sometimes a girl can go through phases where they seek different things. If you don't find your comment here, it's highly likely that your comment did not meet initial posting guidelines. If you have a lengthy situation and require more input regarding the matter, you could post your story on our forum boards where many of our community members would be more than willing to share personal advice.
Since last week, we broke up due to me hearing her complaining about our relationship and it really breaks my heart.
She said that i changed my attitude and all her housemates however just ask her to break up when she's fighting. I open the door and initiate the break up myself. When she begged me to stay i choose to walk away. It is my greatest mistake ever. This week has been a terrible. I couldnt eat or sleep well as i missed her so much. I did some silly things like meeting her up to begged her to stay and texting her like i miss you. She told me when i turn my head away, she feels so much better.
And i couldnt imagine to lose her. Give her some space, and work on those aspects she felt were issues in the relationship and question yourself if these were indeed things that you may have begun taking for granted later into the relationship which caused her the unhappiness. Hi im 18 so is my ex gf we were together for 2 years.
She broke up with me for a number of reasons; commitment fears, wanting to be independent, because she couldnt be in a co-dependent relationship, because she didnt find me attractive anymore and stopped loving me. She said i was the right person and the wrong time and i believed her. I asked her why and she said it is all just for fun and has no feelings, but it makes me feel sick. We've only been broken up a month and she's already sleeping with and dating random guys she doesnt even know.
I want her back as a girlfriend but i have no idea how to do it, and how to make her realise she made the wrong decision. How do i convince her everything she's done since she dumped me is wrong and a mistake, and get her to want me for me, and want to be with me.
We're friends at the moment and she says she loves me as a friend but doesn't want me back. Unfortunately, only she can make that decision on her own to realize her mistakes of letting you go. One thing you can do to help with that is by focusing on yourself and improving aspects to make you look like a better catch. Show her these changes and get her to realize from there. It is the first time we got a break up. Its been a week since then, i made some mistakes like begging her to stay and even got drunk to cause some trouble to her like calling her up and telling her i miss her.
Also some short messages like i missed you, care for her like whether has her eaten. Im suspecting her to be sleeping with someone else but i couldnt do anything. Is there still chances for me to get back with her after no contact rule starting by now? We were together for 2. The reason of breaking up is because of me initiating after hearing she complains to her housemates about me changing my attitude to her.
I dont cherish her enough and i look even more desperate now. How do i "Get her to realise from there" though? Are you saying i should change myself to make myself more attractive and stuff like that? Well, that is the objective of our 5 step plan. We advocate for positive changes to create a better version of yourself because the current version causes the relationship to end.
How can i get her if I will not beg to come back Begging makes you look desperate and weak, and she will lose respect for you in the process. All the more if she has moved on, begging will only affirm her decision to walk away from you. Pick yourself up emotionally first, address the issues that you contributed towards the breakup, before reaching out and building attraction as if you were chasing her for the first time. Hi, So my ex and I were together for about 13 months.
In that 13 months we broke up several times due to fighting, but we always got back together after a week or less. Last November we broke up after a really tense situation and it lasted for 7 months. We tried dating and getting to know other people in that time, but we ended up back together last June.
Unfortunately we broke up again in August and now I just found out that she's now back to dating the guy she was seeing before we got back together in June.
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Apparently they've been dating again for a few weeks now. I've already made some big mistakes like making her really angry at me after this break up and send long messages saying sorry and that I wanted her back. She's already blocked me from social media. I know I should initiate No Contact and I should try to improve myself and try to fix the toxic parts of our relationship, which I have been doing, but how long do I do NC for?
And do you think I still have a chance at getting her back? In the time you've been dating her, the relationship has repeatedly ended which clearly indicates a problem between both parties which may require change from both ends and not just you.
However, if you still intend to get back with her, 30 days of no contact seems right given the time frame of the you guys getting together from June till August. If after no contact, she is still dating the guy or doesn't indicate interest to be with you at that time, you might have to consider walking away even longer for now.
Hi Kevin, I like your article and i think your advice is super helpful given my situation. My story is super long and i'd be happy to post it up here but I think what would be really helpful is if I can potentially get on a call with you to discuss my situation.
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My ex and I had been dating from March 18 to around June 18 when everything fell apart. I was in the wrong because she found some texts on my phone when texting another girl and those messages were a bit naughty. She ignores me and comes back oftenly. I want my girl back. Perhaps for the time being, it might be better to go into no contact to give her some space to let go of the bitter emotions she may be feeling.
Apologize for your previous actions, and tell her that it might be better to spend some time apart. When you reach out again, try to make things up to her and show her that you have changed since then.
Hi there Ryan, I just wanted to start off by saying I love your articles and they've helped me tremendously. With that being said, me and my girlfriend of 4 years broke up about 3 weeks ago, we are both 21 and we've only ever been with each other. She said that she wanted to break up to experience other people and try different things.
I later found out that she had been talking to someone else. I do put the blame for this on myself because I wasnt the best boyfriend. I never showed any affection, didnt take her out, started to gain weight, didn't have a job, and none of the little things.
Yet she still showered me with affection and always tried to put me on the right track, and I couldn't even let her know how much I appreciated that. Shes always been head over heels for me, and after the breakup it seemed like that girl I knew was gone. She was going out every night having fun with her new guy, getting to experience the things she never got with me for a while.
I realized what I had lost and knew that I needed to get her back. So I stopped sitting around and got a job, switched my life habits, started going to the gym, and ended up losing over 15 pounds now. I tried telling her I'm changing for her and all I was accomplishing so far and all she said was that shes proud but it's too late and that I need to stop taking to her. So I did just that. Then just a couple days ago she came to drop off my clothes, I had no intention of talking to her, I was just going to take the clothes and leave it at that.
But then she said she wanted to talk with me and I went along with it. We starting just talking about everything that had been going on in our lives for the past few weeks.
We were having a great time and laughing ot up just taking about everything, but then she told me the past couple days she was having panic attacks something she has a history of and that she didnt know why. Then once again I try to tell her I can change for her and I just need one more chance yet she still is so insistent that it's not gonna happen. I messed up once again and resorted to the begging and bargaining and then she eventually left and went home. I texted her when she left to tell her I was being stupid, I didnt mean to scare her away, and that if she needed anything she could come to me.
She said she understood and told me thank you, but also told me once again that we need to stop taking. I later found out that she could have gone to see her new guy that night if she wanted to, instead she chose to spend it with me. Since that night I decided to start no contact again and continue on improving myself.
What I'm asking for here is your thoughts on my situation and should I be there for her if she needs it, or should I tell her no. Thanks for the reply in advance. The first contact seemed to have gone well until the begging and bargaining started, to which you might have caused her to withdraw again.
Give things some space, and when you reach out the next time, try to keep your emotions in check and take things a step at a time. For now if she reaches out, you could consider being there for her but remember not to overstep any boundaries and make her uncomfortable.
Me and my ex were perfect with each other and rarely argued, not even fighting. When we argued we would talk it out with each other and come to terms with each other. Last week tho she started talking less to me because university had just started and she started going out with friends a lot more.
When I talked to her about this, instead of our usual open to heart discussion she acted more defensive. Then at the end of the week she gave me her answer and asked to break up with me. Not a big deal, right? I agreed to her request when I heard the real reason and we broke up on good terms.
And just thinking about her being forced to be with someone from her own culture and sleeping with them makes me sick to my stomach. Or should I first convince her dad to change his mind and then try to get my ex back by following this guid?
It would really depend on how strict her dad would be regarding the culture issue, and whether you think your ex would someday be willing to disregard it and decide that the relationship is more important. The latter would help in you trying to convince her dad to support her decision, otherwise, you'd be stuck with fighting two battles 1 to win her back and 2 to win her dad over.
If she firmly chooses to respect her dad's decision, you might find yourself having a hard time to do either of the tasks and it may honestly be better to walk away. Hi Ryan, Great material — Hoping you can give me some insight, grab a bag of popcorn.
Everything was great Ski lessons, cooking classes and the like , we talked about marriage, moving in and all that good stuff. We were very good together, laughed often and always in contact. Fast forward until 1. She bit and agreed. Come Friday, I followed up with no response until Saturday morning.
Heart dropped but I said that was fine and meet anyways. She was engaged, making jokes, laughing, reminiscing on old times, talking life with no mention of the current person see is dating.How To Get Your Ex Back When She Is Dating Someone Else
Last 15 minutes, I get into why I came. I told her that I expected my feelings to fade but they have not, we were good together and that while I respect her new situation, if she was ever single again, we would be great together.
She said we had good times, thought of me often and that the current thing was not serious and that she would expect to be single again at some point. I ended coffee and left after hug. On Wednesday I texted saying it was great catching up and seeing her, she said the same back. I am now debating on going all in with a text this weekend stating while I respect her current situation, I think we both are great together and have feelings for each other and I want to give us another chance.
I think the new thing is sub 4 weeks old, she agreed to meet with me in light of it, she stated its not serious and maybe single again in the future, stayed for a great 2 hours, was very excited to see me, responded to text a few days later, still is the first to stalk my snaps. Family issues still there, she is currently dating someone, she is stubborn, I waited over 3 months missing summer and her Bday.
That puts us out months broken up on a 6 month relationship. Thoughts on my game plan? Instead of immediately going all in which could backfire drastically should anything not go according to plan , it would be better to perhaps remain on friendly terms first, and fact find a little more about her current situation with her date, as well as to rebuild familiarity and comfort towards you.
Hi my name is Daniel but we've been together for two-and-a-half years I can't say I've been perfect but I've shown love respect and on their kids she's still living with me but she's going to sleeping with this guy and staying over there she said that it's over this is fresh and I just read this I did every single thing that you put on there not to do is it too late to start fresh and not do the communication thing which I haven't all day today.
About 11 months ago I signed for my daughter to move out of state with her mother and I never told her and I kept it in now I did tell her and she's like why didn't you tell me before I broke down and cried to her and apologized and she still said it's too late she has feelings for this guy she is a nurse and she used to be his nurse and that's what came in contact.
Spend the time picking yourself up from the breakup first and go into no contact. If she has developed feelings for someone new, the only chance to win her back is if things don't work out between them, or if you come across as the better alternative and to do so would require some changes in your life to become a better version of yourself than before.
I met my ex-gf the middle of and things were going pretty good and we were both happy. At we spent months being together at same time preparing for college. She was the first to leave for school. During our time together she as always hinted that she was afraid of falling for someone else. At some point, she began making suggestions about finding someone to take care of her while she was in school this was rampant that, it stirred number of insecurities within me. During the time we were together she made out with a guy a family friend she felt sorry and told me about it.
But the insecurities didnt go away. It drove me into thinking that I was never good enough for her. At the same time I battled great deal of social anxiety which I have worked on. After she left for college I stopped contacting her for the fear that I wasnt good enough. During the following year i still didn't get in contact with her at the same time I didnt move on.
I was sort of stuck, still working on my anxiety. Till i initiated contact and tried explaining myself that I was dealing with things really personal and that I never left her for someone else. My mistake was that I didnt deal with my issues completely, somehow he grew distant. But I'm okay wit whatever happens. I understand why the breakup happened and have realized that it was a huge fault of mine.
I'm in a good place right now and to be honest, I'm texting u just because I miss speaking to you. I don't have a goal or an ulterior motive for texting you. I just want to see what happens" template from your site of course.
So there is no coming back for you. We were never meant to be so Just move on. Sorry Forgot to add when we met she 16 and I At this point she could still be going through a phase due to her age, and you might want to consider walking away for the time being to focus on yourself and grow as a person. Frequencies and phases of life would change rapidly for people around that age, and you should try to reach out and connect with her once again as friends first later on after some changes have been made to your life and you become the person she can visualize being with.
She broke up with me because I was still hurt from a past relationship and I was slower moving than she was. We cared deeply for each other, but she has some PTSD that wouldn't let her move on even though I wanted to. She also said multiple times she couldn't imagine not having me in her life and for me not to disappear. She said we need to take it day by day and time will tell for us. Its been about weeks since the breakup. I did everything to a T.
I had no contact, during that time she contacted me. We texted a lot of remembrance texts and finally went out on a great hike the other day.
She said she wanted to go on more hikes if I wanted to and texted me later that is was good seeing me. We had some more text conversations that were good. She's been hanging out with this guy since day 1 of the breakup. They kinda knew each other before.